Why Stag Parties Have Become a Nightmare
If you’re like a lot of guys, then you won’t be too excited about getting married. Sure, you probably love your partner very much and want to be married to them, but the idea of standing up in front of hundreds of people dressed up to the nines in a several thousand dollar venue and professing your undying love? No thanks…
As such, a large number of guys will pop the question and then turn their attention immediately to two other things that they’re likely to find much more exciting and much less terrifying: the stag party, and the honeymoon.
Well, I hate to burst your bubble, but far from being an opportunity to unwind and have fun, you’re likely going to find that your stag party can also be just as nightmarish and stressful as the wedding.
Or even moreso… You just haven’t thought about it.
What am I talking about? Well let’s start with something obvious: stag parties are awkward as hell. This is apparent as soon as you start considering guest lists: do you invite your Dad? Do you invite your fiance’s Dad? Do you invite your old mates from school? How about the ones who always get into fights?
And once you have this hodgepodge of colleagues, friends and future in-laws – some of whom you probably would rather weren’t there – how do you ensure there are no awkward silences? And who do you think they’re going to talk about when those awkward silences do arise?
When you’re planning a stag party it will normally be because you’ve just gotten engaged. That’s great, but what you need to remember is that it also probably cost you several thousand dollars for the diamond and you’ll now be thinking about paying for a wedding. You need to ensure then that you keep it affordable and plan the stag as part of your budget.
The Drunkenness and Debauchery
Let’s face it, the majority of us who propose to our girlfriends do so because we’re ready to settle down. That normally means that we’re done with getting so drunk we can’t see and then waking up with no idea how we got there. And the last thing you want to do after that is to go go-karting and then have to drink again in a hot country before having your friends tie you up and shave you. That’s not fun, that’s self-abuse.
So what am I saying? Stags are horrible and you just have to deal with it? No, that’s not what I’m saying at all. All I’m getting at is that stags can be horrible and there seems to be a lot of pressure to make them that way while pretending you’re having fun. Think realistically about how your stag will actually go, and then design it in such a way that it’s likely to be enjoyable rather than traumatic.
Think about it this way: a stag party is an opportunity for you to call the shots. Think about the things you’ve always wanted to do that you couldn’t justify/no one would do with you… and then make them happen.
Nicola Joseph, the author of this article, is a freelance blogger, currently writing for, Buy Diamond Direct, renowned online diamond dealers. She is an avid reader and enjoys spending her evenings watching her favorite sitcoms. You can get in touch with Nicola via Twitter @NicolaJoseph.